Parents' Guide: Sam Gets Mad and Calms Down
Reinforce the Message: Feeling Better When You Feel Mad continued...
Use incidents in your life to talk to your child about feeling mad and how to respond. You might say something like, "I am feeling mad right now, so I am going to take a few minutes by myself to calm down."
You can also show your child that sometimes talking to others about your mad feelings can make you feel better. You can tell your child, "I'm going to call a friend to talk about what made me mad today. Sometimes talking with someone else helps me know what to do next."
When your child is mad, try not to ignore her anger or demand that she stop being mad. This won't help her learn how to handle strong feelings like anger and stress. Instead, help your child find ways to release anger when she wants to strike out or explode.
Talk with your child about what is making her mad and how to solve the problem. If a young child won't talk to a person, she may be willing to talk to a stuffed animal, family pet, or imaginary friend.
Think about relaxing activities that can help your child de-stress, such as a bath or finger-painting.
If your child has ongoing problems with anger, talk to your pediatrician.