Kids' Top 6 Worries: How to Fix Them
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I just moved to a new school, and I hate it. Can you help me disappear?
It's so hard to be the new kid. You feel like everybody else has friends and you don't fit in. It can take time to adjust. But you can do it. And not by disappearing. The trick is going out and doing things instead of sitting home by yourself, watching TV, or surfing the Internet.
What did you like to do at your old school? Sports? Music? Play chess? Drama? Join a team or club at your new school, and you'll find kids who like the same things you do.
If you meet kids who seem interesting in class or at recess, be brave and ask them if they want to hang out. Give yourself a challenge and say "Hi" to one new person each day.
Ask your parents to take a walk, and you could meet a new friend around the neighborhood. Go to the park to ride your skateboard, or play on the playground. Exercise helps put you in a good mood, and maybe you'll run into other kids doing the same thing.
Also, let your parents and teachers know that you'd like help. I'll bet they'll help you find groups that you can join and kids who like what you like so you can make new friends.
My best friend doesn't talk to me anymore. She has all new friends now. Should I ask her what I did wrong?
This is a tough one. If you really like your friend, you might want to tell her that she hurt your feelings. You can ask her why she doesn't want to hang out anymore.
But remember that as you get older, it's normal for your friends to change. Kids start liking new things, and they become friends with kids who are into the same stuff. So it could be that your friend just found kids who had more in common with her now than you do. It isn't your fault, and it doesn't make you a bad person.
Try building new friendships with kids who like the same things you do and that you like hanging out with. And then you won't have to worry about old friends who aren't around as much anymore.
In the meantime, if you're lonely, don't be shy about hanging out with your family more. See if your mom or brother or sister wants to go for a walk after dinner. Talking and walking may make you feel better. That's way better than feeling lonely and staying home vegging out on the couch and eating junk food.