Kids' Top 6 Worries: How to Fix Them
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If you meet kids who seem interesting in class or at recess, be brave and ask them if they want to hang out. Give yourself a challenge and say "Hi" to one new person each day.
Ask your parents to take a walk, and you could meet a new friend around the neighborhood. Go to the park to ride your skateboard, or play on the playground. Exercise helps put you in a good mood, and maybe you'll run into other kids doing the same thing.
Also, let your parents and teachers know that you'd like help. I'll bet they'll help you find groups that you can join and kids who like what you like so you can make new friends.
My best friend doesn't talk to me anymore. She has all new friends now. Should I ask her what I did wrong?
This is a tough one. If you really like your friend, you might want to tell her that she hurt your feelings. You can ask her why she doesn't want to hang out anymore.
But remember that as you get older, it's normal for your friends to change. Kids start liking new things, and they become friends with kids who are into the same stuff. So it could be that your friend just found kids who had more in common with her now than you do. It isn't your fault, and it doesn't make you a bad person.
Try building new friendships with kids who like the same things you do and that you like hanging out with. And then you won't have to worry about old friends who aren't around as much anymore.
In the meantime, if you're lonely, don't be shy about hanging out with your family more. See if your mom or brother or sister wants to go for a walk after dinner. Talking and walking may make you feel better. That's way better than feeling lonely and staying home vegging out on the couch and eating junk food.
I think my teacher doesn't like me. I don't know what I did, but how do I fix it?
School is hard enough without feeling like you have a teacher who is out to get you. Stress can make it hard to focus on school and staying healthy. Go to your parents or another adult and tell them why you think the teacher doesn't like you. Ask them to help you figure out what you can do about it. Being able to ask for help can help your mood and stress.
Probably the best thing is for your parents to talk to the teacher and see what's up. (There's a good chance that your teacher will be surprised to hear how you feel.) Hopefully things will go better for you in class, so you can focus on learning and getting good grades.
Everybody worries sometimes. But worrying alone won't change anything or make your problem go away. You have to do something. So think about what steps you can take to fix what's bugging you. Or talk to someone like a trusted friend (not someone on the Internet) to help you figure it out together. Write it down so you can remember. You'll feel better and have less to worry about.
Ready to take on something you're worried about? Try This: Talk About Your Problems